[quote author=solotripper link=1368645138/37#37 date=1370282846][quote]
I know I should of cut the cord years before, but we had a social connection as well, and I kept getting pulled back in. My mistake for thinking( hoping) "leopards" could change their spots. :-[/quote]

Now we are really getting to the nub of it aren't we? As in any relationship we can choose wether or not to be irritated. Easier said than done that is for sure but that is the truth of the matter.

Time also has a way of smoothing over the rough parts as in your 20+ year experience. Of course  fresh irritations have a way of opening old wounds (now I remember why I didn't want to go with this bunch   :P )

I gave my best shot to garner a selective compadre on this summers trip. But when it fell through I thought "Oh well, probably just as well".......Positives and negatives on both sides of the equation and the secret to satisfaction IMO is to focus on the positive aspects.