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I believe that over the years, as QJ'rs meet at Canoecopia and other places, friendships form, and joint trips get planned.  I see this as a great off-shoot to the QuietJourney site. 

Over the years I've also occasionally seen "cold"-posts where someone posts an open invite to QJ readers to join his/her trip; or someone posts his interest in joining a group. 

I am curious to know if these trips among QJr's -- but still strangers -- have worked out. 

Each year it seems more of a challenge to find 3 like-minded souls who are willing and able to take 10 to 14 days off on a canoe trip!

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I have a thread inviting QJers to rendevous with SD and I while we are in Kawnipi, last week of June. As far as we know, no takers. We just enjoy meeting new people and socializing with old friends. Invite still stands. Cool
  
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OS - Would love to connect with you and SD on Kawnippi. Particularly if I could have one of those awesome island sites in McKenzie Bay  Thumbs Upup

Could still happen, so you never know.

But I'd actually enjoy a trip with some QJers some time.
  
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Old Salt wrote on Apr 24th, 2013 at 2:15am:
I have a thread inviting QJers to rendevous with SD and I while we are in Kawnipi, last week of June. As far as we know, no takers. We just enjoy meeting new people and socializing with old friends. Invite still stands. Cool


OS.......

I have sought out a few QJ folk to possibly meet me at some of the events I will be at during the summer. I know of at least 1 QJ fellow (complete with scout group in tow) who is planning on the rendevous.
  
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My usual paddle partner and I have tripped with Kingfisher once. 

It hardly felt like tripping with someone I didn't know, though.  Considering we each have 1700+ posts on here and that we've met several times at Canoecopia, plus each of us has submitted trip reports on QJ, I felt like we each had a pretty good idea of what to expect out of the other.  I'd go so far as to say that there were less surprises out of that trip than trips I've taken with friends that I knew in person.

I would trip with KF again, along with quite a few others on this site.  I don't think we slowed down KF too much...   Cheesy
  
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MuleLars wrote on Apr 24th, 2013 at 2:52am:
OS - Would love to connect with you and SD on Kawnippi. Particularly if I could have one of those awesome island sites in McKenzie Bay  Thumbs Upup

Could still happen, so you never know.

But I'd actually enjoy a trip with some QJers some time.


Make it happen!
  
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Wrong, the correct response is "Make it so!"

Oh, oops, wrong group.  That is the Star Trek group.  Never mind. Wink
  
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I haven't had the opportunity yet to meet, much less trip with any QJ'ers yet.  Thanks for the VA invite, MT, but I hope I might catch up with OS and SD on Kawnipi (yes, a different thread...) as I'll be up there around the 21st or 22nd of June with a group of 4 Scouts and another adult.  Not sure where we'll camp yet, but plan on a layover day there possibly.  Not going via Sommers, but on our own, so no Chuck's canoes for us, but the W&H beaver.  We come in at Prairie Portage on the 20th. 

Also doing a Sarah entry, 9 days starting on Aug. 1st.  Just two of us so far....looking for 2-3 more?

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Snow_Dog -- thanks for sharing your experience with KF, someone you "met" on site, and who subsequently made a trip with you. 

Based on the responses so far, I'm thinking maybe there really haven't been that many other experiences like yours -- where you get to know someone on this website, maybe have a beer with at 'Copia, and then together go on a canoe trip. 

I struggled the last few years to fill out our June trip.  One buddy is a DUI casualty, another turned 72 and took early retirement, I wouldn't invite back a few who have joined us in the past, and several others still work for a living and can't find the time (or choose not to) to go on a 10-14 day canoe trip.   

We barely filled out our June foursome this year: my canoe buddy invited the husband of a friend of his wife's; and I bumped into my family physician at a gas station and (knowing he paddled the BWCA) invited him on a whim.  He agreed!  Go figure.

Each new year, another adventure patching a foursome together. 

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azalea wrote on Apr 24th, 2013 at 4:52pm:
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Make it happen!


Wrong, the correct response is "Make it so!"

Oh, oops, wrong group.  That is the Star Trek group.  Never mind. Wink


Ahem.......the actual correct response is "Make it so number oneWink
  
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Pd, and others, we enter Q on June 22. We probably won't get to Kawnipi until about June 25. We plan to do some daytripping while on Kawnipi, so if anyone is in the area, keep your eyes open. If you let us know your plan, we will watch for you. We exit Q on July 3.

I know of several other QJers, who haven't chimed in on this thread who regularly travel together. I did a trip back in 06 that was eight QJers, most of whom I had not met previously. We connected initially via PM, exchanged emails, and an email chain was the method of planning the trip. There were also a few phone calls made just to make sure we were all on the same page. I met one of the members when he drove to my place to spend the night prior to the trip. That is when the plan was hatched to load 'pack extenders' (carefully measured & cut RR ties) below the food box, in the foodpack.

I say that to say this: For this idea to work, you have to reach out and connect with those you think would be good trip partners. Just begin communicating. There is a place for 'profiles', which can be a beginning point. Having said that, I haven't done a profile on myself, because I've posted enough on here, that most are able to form an opinion of whether or not they would like to trip with me. There is also a feature that allows you to go back and review posts of anyone you choose. Undecided

Prouty, MT, others, I think I would enjoy tripping with you guys. If you're interested, let me know. This years plan is in the can, but I'm open about 2014 and beyond... Cool
  
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I've shared rides and or met up with people for a night or two at some chosen lake and that's always enjoyable when it's doable. Did a three week trip with 'some guy I met in the internet' one year as my wife liked to tell it. We shared a campsite for a night the year before. It was a great trip. Hell, it was even a good trip. I agreed to it based on a trip report Tripper wrote that sounded a whole lot like what I normally do so we decided on a trip that neither of us would have tackled alone. He still stops by when he's in town and I'm always happy when he does.

The profile thread is helpful but a trip report or two is even more helpful in considering if there might be a good match.

The hardest thing for us was figuring out who's gear to take. I think we sent pictures back and forth and still spent a day deciding, combining and packing before we left.


I'm curious prouboy. Why wouldn't you invite back a few that had joined you in the past? That would probably be good information to share up front.
  
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Old Salt wrote on Apr 25th, 2013 at 12:46am:
Prouty, MT, others, I think I would enjoy tripping with you guys. Cool


Feelings mutual OS

You would like Mike Prouty......energetic, upbeat, easy smiling sort of bloke. Good conversationalist.
  
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you are always taking a chance with a "blind date" - the more people involved, the higher the likelihood that you won't mesh with all of them


an alternative could be to join a canoe club, do some trips with those people, and then you would have a better idea of how compatible those people might be

there are a couple of clubs in Mpls. area - not sure if they do flatwater trips/BWCA or not - but it would give you other opportunites to paddle, and a way to meet potential partners that you would at least have done day trips with

does not even have to be a local club - our club has memebrs from several different states who may come out for a trip or two, so maybe WI or IA clubs could work also


  
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Interesting comments. Finding good matches for extended wilderness trips is not easy. And, seems to me, is getting harder. One reason it is getting harder is that lots of folks I have gone with have aged a little and think they do not want to go. Another reason folks opt out is the trip they took was tougher than they had expected. Boundary Waters Journal did a series on finding good travel companions. Other folks seemed to find the same "truths" I did.

From this site, I've met Spartan 1 and Spartan 2. Good folks and I would travel with them, though I suspect they would not travel with me as I go farther and harder than they. While I have never met Jimbo, I suspect he and I would get along, though I'll be damned if I'll carry pink flamingos through the bush.
  
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Puckster wrote on Apr 24th, 2013 at 9:58pm:


I wouldn't invite back a few who have joined us in the past.

I bumped into my family physician at a gas station and (knowing he paddled the BWCA) invited him on a whim.  He agreed!  Go figure.

Each new year, another adventure patching a foursome together. 

prouboy


P_B Kept trying. You never know where you'll find a great tripping partner. Make the best of each trip though.

I found a guy who'd gone to a LLC family cabin for years and was always curious where all those canoes were going.
Took him once, and he loved it. Game for anything or just taking it easy.

db, My "not again guys" are mostly the Passive Aggressive type. They won't take the responsibility of expressing their wants because they want to save the option of complaining if it doesn't work out. So far I've always given these guys a second chance trip. When they start complaining I lay out the options we have from where we are. But they still fail to make any commitment other than following. I just encourage them to do their own trips now. Some might, some won't.
  
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My stomping ground is Woodland Caribou and so it would seem hard to form a group. I have found that posting my intentions far in advance makes a big difference. I have been tripping the last few years with paddlers I came to know through a few different canoe forums. Often times paddlers come and go during some of my longer trips. Making it clear to everyone what kind of trip it will be is important. You can't predict how a new group of paddlers will mesh but with enough pre-trip communication and a willingness to address issues as they arise during the trip we have had some fantastic journeys.
  
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Hey Old Salt
I am still hoping to meet up with you somewhere in the Falls chain. You are coming in on the 22nd and I am leaving on the 23rd. You will be the first to get a trip report on the bushwhack to Gamp lake. Where do you plan to camp your first night?
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mastertangler wrote on Apr 25th, 2013 at 10:38am:
Old Salt wrote on Apr 25th, 2013 at 12:46am:
Prouty, MT, others, I think I would enjoy tripping with you guys. Cool


Feelings mutual OS

I've met Prouty, and he is a great guy. I think most of us would enjoy tripping with him.

However, I've not met MT, but perhaps one day our paddles will cross paths...

You would like Mike Prouty......energetic, upbeat, easy smiling sort of bloke. Good conversationalist.

  
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Really interesting responses, and seemingly lots of opportunities to follow up.  I plan to do that! 

I'll be at the Bell Composites Canoe booth at Midwest Mountaineering's Outdoor Adventure Expo tomorrow through Sunday.  Any of you Twin Cities guys who are there, stop by and say hello.  MT, I'll expect you'll be there... Smiley

Jimbo, you asked about why I wouldn't ask back a few guys who made trips with our group...

One guy was not prepared for this kind of trip.  Nice guy, and he tried hard, but he just never "fit" in.  I think he was overwhelmed and out of his element.

The other guy was simply boring.  Boring because he lacked any kind of curiosity -- about anything.  Never asked anyone about "their story."  Seemed unable or unwilling to have a conversation about anything other than himself.  Boring and kind of sad.

I'm a "people person" and for that reason solo trips aren't for me.  Time spent in canoe country is precious, and I want to share time in camp and in a canoe with people who make the trip more interesting and fun. 

I've got three trips planned this year: June - into Baird (the "guy" trip, the one I've struggled the last few years to fill); July with my daughter, son-in-law, and neice (Ottertrack Lake area), and in August (with my canoeing  partner and two "new" but very experienced guys) paddling the Bloodvein river West to East through the Woodland Caribou Park. 

So I'm not complaining, but I'm ALWAYS on the lookout for meeting and paddling with other folks!   

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The best of both worlds? Group solo baby! That is where it's at IMO. Like Prouboy I can talk to anyone........anywhere.........anytime. (And I had better be able to, it is how I make the legal tender).

But I have also spent many consecutive months in the woods alone and there is something very special about it that is hard to put into words. Perhaps the focus changes, I know when solo I am more attuned to what is going on around me in the creation and am more inclined to interact with the Creator. When I am with my fellow man the focus shifts.........due in large part to the actions of others. Camp chores, talking and even the quiet presence of others can be a distraction.

But I am torn.......I ENJOY the companionship of my fellows. Who doesn't like the shared experience of quality time in the great outdoors? The lifelong bonds that are forged through tough portages and swarms of black flies. Through quiet conversations around the fire?

The solution as far as I am concerned is group solo. Paddle your own boat, go where and when you want, slip away for some quiet time and then have the laughs and joviality of company back at camp or on the portage trail. Perfect!

  
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mastertangler wrote on Apr 26th, 2013 at 10:26am:


But I have also spent many consecutive months in the woods alone and there is something very special about it that is hard to put into words. Perhaps the focus changes, I know when solo I am more attuned to what is going on around me in the creation and am more inclined to interact with the Creator. When I am with my fellow man the focus shifts.........due in large part to the actions of others. Camp chores, talking and even the quiet presence of others can be a distraction.

But I am torn.......I ENJOY the companionship of my fellows. Who doesn't like the shared experience of quality time in the great outdoors? The lifelong bonds that are forged through tough portages and swarms of black flies. Through quiet conversations around the fire?

The solution as far as I am concerned is group solo. Paddle your own boat, go where and when you want, slip away for some quiet time and then have the laughs and joviality of company back at camp or on the portage trail. Perfect!


MT, you have described an ideal set-up. On one trip we had 4 solos and last year we peaked at five paddlers, 5 canoes and 5 tents. Years ago a lover of solo paddling put it this way "Have you ever bicycled on a tandem bike." If you have you understand what he was trying to explain.
  
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Marten wrote on Apr 26th, 2013 at 3:34pm:
"Have you ever bicycled on a tandem bike." If you have you understand what he was trying to explain.


Nothing wrong with wanting to solo, but IMO paddling tandem is not like riding a tandem bike at all.

IMO The ultimate canoeing experience is a well coordinated tandem team.
  
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Marten wrote on Apr 26th, 2013 at 3:34pm:
mastertangler wrote on Apr 26th, 2013 at 10:26am:


The solution as far as I am concerned is group solo. Paddle your own boat, go where and when you want, slip away for some quiet time and then have the laughs and joviality of company back at camp or on the portage trail. Perfect!


"Have you ever bicycled on a tandem bike." If you have you understand what he was trying to explain.

I think the freedom to slow to observe something that has caught your eye or pull into a little bay and sit for a few minutes without putting anyone else out is one of the perks of a solo. This summer looks to be more tandem paddling than solo and that's OK too.
  
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Tandem vs solo.........now I've done it! (again)

One of those cases where everyone is right.........and everyone is wrong.

I get where Jim is coming from........ 2 paddlers having such an effect on a boat that it seems that they are really one.

But this thread is about "match making" and I am about 90% on Martens side. I'm trying to envision one person on the planet with whom I want to spend every waking moment with on extended canoe trip. I can only really think of one and He walked on water. (Although I would certainly make an exception for a really rigorous and potentially dangerous trip like an Arctic trip)

I suppose the thing for folk to do is to honestly evaluate just what they are going to the woods for in the first place. In spite of our overly connected world I would argue that people are more lonely and alone in this age than ever before. As a consequence many paddlers are looking forward to the social aspect of tripping.

Others may be seeking a respite from continual social interaction. From the demands of family, friends and business pressures.

What I do know is this.......if your going to do a tandem trip you better be darn sure that you have a compatible partner because there is no walking away if someone rubs you the wrong way. I have been fortunate that all my tandem trips have been done with lifelong friends......I will admit that the tandem trips have had the effect of increasing the bonds of friendship so there is certainly something to be said for tandem canoeing provided you have a match.

But I'm stayin with group solo as the best overall experience. One day I would like to go with a large group.......never done that. Could be fun!   
  
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TomT wrote on Apr 27th, 2013 at 4:02am:
MT, a group solo is something i'd like to explore sometime but you still don't have the freedom of a solo.

I think a variation on a group solo - one where maybe 4 paddlers start out and camp together the first night, then split up the following day on their own solo routes might be good for people who are unfamiliar with each other. 




Just admit it Tom........your anti social  Grin

Here's my $2 bucks worth ( "Hope and Change" is expensive).........sometimes you need to hang out with some folk a bit longer than a day or even two before you can  determine wether they could be a match or not (although I proposed to my lovely wife in 2 weeks  Cool ). Some people are reserved or might even be a bit nervous. So within about a week you should have a handle on it. But isn't that the beauty of group solo?

You have just pulled into your campsite together and the new guy hasn't shut up for 5 minutes........so you go to your own tent for a little siesta. Then you get back up and the interagation commences once again......so you grab your rod and take your boat out for a little spin. Later in the week the overly hyper babbler has calmed down and you find out he is not such bad company after all. When your group solo the escape pod is always available.

Tom...Lord willing I will be in Highland Park Aug. 24/25 at the Port Clinton art show. If you are around that area breeze through the show and say hi. Don't travel distance to meet me (I wouldn't  Grin ) but if your local come to the show. If you have never been it is one of the better shows in the country and well worth attending for its own sake.

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Puckster wrote on Apr 24th, 2013 at 9:58pm:
Based on the responses so far, I'm thinking maybe there really haven't been that many other experiences like yours -- where you get to know someone on this website, maybe have a beer with at 'Copia, and then together go on a canoe trip. 

I have been on at least six QJ group trips over the past 9 years which have been started through discussions on this forum.  Some just a day or two meeting out in the Quetico, some for a week start to finish.  On all of them we had a good time, got along, didn't ruffle any feathers and made some new friends.  Haven't found an obnoxious paddler among the group and hope the others didn't find me a "pain in the butt".   
I usually have my own permit and boat and am packed as though I am going solo.  This gives me the opportunity to leave the group if for some reason it isn't working out.
  
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mastertangler wrote on Apr 27th, 2013 at 9:54am:
Just admit it Tom........your anti social  Grin

Here's my $2 bucks worth ( "Hope and Change" is expensive).........sometimes you need to hang out with some folk a bit longer than a day or even two before you can  determine wether they could be a match or not (although I proposed to my lovely wife in 2 weeks  Cool ). Some people are reserved or might even be a bit nervous. So within about a week you should have a handle on it. But isn't that the beauty of group solo?

You have just pulled into your campsite together and the new guy hasn't shut up for 5 minutes........so you go to your own tent for a little siesta. Then you get back up and the interagation commences once again......so you grab your rod and take your boat out for a little spin. Later in the week the overly hyper babbler has calmed down and you find out he is not such bad company after all. When your group solo the escape pod is always available.


I am to some degree anti social but really more introverted and definitely shy.  The shy thing isn't so tough for me anymore but it never completely goes away.

You make excellent points about giving it time with a group solo. I usually trip for 10 days doing a loop with a few layovers.  I love the freedom of soloing ie: camping when and where I want and travelling at the pace I want.

How to balance that with the compromising of a group dynamic?  Maybe 1/2 group then half solo...  Smiley

I think I could make that art show in august. My permit for the Q is Aug 29. I'll put it on the calendar, thanks.
  
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Reply #30 - Apr 27th, 2013 at 9:45pm
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My point was to say I disagree with the tandem bike analogy.

I've only tandem tripped with people I knew something about. And you still never really know until you're into the trip how it's going to turn out.

I wasn't disagreeing with the context of the discussion here, i.e. group soloing.

I'm lucky enough to know several different tandem partners I'd go with anytime again.
  
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Reply #31 - Apr 28th, 2013 at 12:42am
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I think age is a factor here. When I was in my 20's I put together lots of big group trips. There were some rough spots but they were all great trips, and I know everyone on them looks back on them fondly now. It seems difficult to do this now, for a variety of reasons but I believe it analogous to getting married for the first time later in life. It rarely happens because one gets comfortable in a routine and isn't willing to modify it to accommodate a new situation. I personally don't like the group solo idea. It is kind of like living together instead of getting married.  I would really like to do a big group trip with QJers. tandem canoes, trade partners and/or positions every day. Paddle and camp and fish together. I would like it to have a difficult goal like bushwhacking into Zephira or some other exotic destination. It would of course include a fishing contest. There could be a chef of the day, cocktail of the day, fishing lesson of the day etc. A pledge of excessively civil behavior would be required. Anybody in?
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Reply #32 - Apr 28th, 2013 at 7:34am
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No offense Jon but that sounds like the worst trip I could possibly imagine. I'd stop in for an evening or two if invited and possible though. Wink

The only salvageable idea this happy camper saw in there was the chef of the day idea. We would always have each couple/canoe responsible for a meal or two from packing through dessert and washing everyone's dishes. People always did their very best and the only thing we eventually outlawed by majority opinion was couscous n' chickpea based. Freeze dried shrimp didn't go over too well either but that vote would have been unanimous.


FWIW - I was well into in my 40s when I got married. As far as canoe trips go, after spending a years worth of nights in Quetico by that point in my life, I'd call either avoiding disappointment after trying many different things. Hey, when you finally come across a good fit that feels right, why waste time looking for something better? Trips change, as does life. Enjoy the good stuff while you can!
  
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Reply #33 - Apr 28th, 2013 at 2:16pm
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db, Jon didn't sound that bad to me. Maybe it depends on how many trips you get to take. I think PB mentioned doing several trips and each had a different theme,,, guys, family, newbies. You could add soloing.

FWIW Soloing's my chance to really explore. I'm not one for laying around camp, but I don't just pound out the miles either. My tandem partners are great but they don't want to do as much as I could.
  
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Paddling solo has a certain appeal for me and, who knows, one of these days I might actually do an extended solo trip.  But I’m incredibly lucky.  My paddling partner is my wife.  The 26 day trips we take every summer is the highlight of our year.  We’re to a point where we move together like one.  Whether doing a portage or setting up camp, we don’t have to say a word.  And here’s the best part, she doesn’t like to fish but she loves going fishing with me.  So, wind or calm, I have my own trolling motor in the bow – talk about being spoiled! 
When I was young I crisscrossed Canada and the U.S. travelling and camping (motorcycle – in 6 years near 75 thousand miles.)  While I loved the solitude and the spontaneity of travelling alone, for me at this point, it’s kinda, “been there, done that.” Now I find it a thrill to share my experience with someone who cherishes it as much as I do - that early morning cuppa with the mist rising off the lake or the moon lit late night dram before sacking out.  To be that connected to someone in a place where you feel so open, well, what can I say - she doesn’t walk on water but I could spend eternity with her.   Which is how it feels when we’re in the bush together (in a good way  Wink)  But hey, solo, tandem, that’s why there’s chocolate and vanilla. 
  
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Kerry -- what a GREAT note.  Frame that and give it to your dearly beloved.  Priceless!

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Kerry wrote on Apr 28th, 2013 at 3:07pm:
motorcycle – in 6 years near 75 thousand miles.


Grin  Hey Kerry, you sound like one of my boyhood heros! Wink  Cheesy

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Reply #37 - Apr 29th, 2013 at 12:29pm
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Grin  Hey Kerry, you sound like one of my boyhood heros! Wink  Cheesy

Really?  Well, hang in there man.
  
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Reply #38 - Apr 29th, 2013 at 1:17pm
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Kerry.......Oh..M...Gee!! HOW ROMANTIC!  Wink

Confidence of character. I applaud it.

The perfect canoe partner? Sort of tough. I suspect some folk like myself might just be a little to particular. They have a checklist.......
*daylight to dark
*no complaining
*likes to fish
*impervious to bugs
*No smoking
*no foul language
*no constant yackety-schmakety
etc. etc. etc.

I will keep an eye out but I have resigned myself to accepting that the most practical canoe partner is looking back at me in the mirror every morn. But then again my family and friends said I would never get married because I was too fussy.......

As per my soul mate going tripping........until someone figures out how to portage a Kings Down mattress (camel? Elephant?) and can make Deet smell like scented candles and can make sweat feel and smell like jasmine massage oil it's not happening.........."where do we go for dinner"?  Grin Grin Grin
  
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Reply #39 - Apr 29th, 2013 at 4:06pm
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Kerry, Ditto for me too. That's why no solo trips lately. We did take one of her friends last year. But we really look forward to our doing our own trips just us two. She also pushes me to take the old paddling buds on separate trips, as long as there's a trip for her in the near future too.

Talked me into buying a brand new Minn II. Ouch my arm  Grin

Our first date was a Q trip in Oct,,, took her over the Badwater portage first day. She did say she liked to hike  Cheesy She was fine with it too.
  
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Jim J Solo wrote on Apr 29th, 2013 at 4:06pm:
Kerry, Ditto for me too. That's why no solo trips lately. We did take one of her friends last year. But we really look forward to our doing our own trips just us two. She also pushes me to take the old paddling buds on separate trips, as long as there's a trip for her in the near future too.

Talked me into buying a brand new Minn II. Ouch my arm  Grin

Our first date was a Q trip in Oct,,, took her over the Badwater portage first day. She did say she liked to hike  Cheesy She was fine with it too.


Wow, first date on a canoe trip - in October yet.  Talk about going for broke.  Congratulations - when it works, it works.
  
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Reply #41 - Apr 30th, 2013 at 2:07am
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I used to go to the BW in the 1980's with my wife before we were married.  We always say that going on a BW trip is a great compatability test for marriage. If you make it through an 8 night trip and both are still smiling then you are good to go. 

Funny thing is - once we married in 1989 she called it quits with the canoe. Go figure.  Undecided

  
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Funny thing is - once we married in 1989 she called it quits with the canoe. Go figure. 


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She used the right "lure" to land her "catch"  Wink
  
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Wink It happens.
  
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The frequency of my wife's canoe trips has declined over the years.  She has a good excuse -- a broken back years before we met continues to make sleeping on the ground a challenge for her. 

But after I read Kerry's note, she wants to try again.  I'll pack in a super-duper mattress, as thick and cushy one as I can get (make/model suggestions?).  And I'm getting her new rain gear. 

So Kerry, I owe you one.

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Puckster wrote on May 1st, 2013 at 2:34am:
The frequency of my wife's canoe trips has declined over the years.  She has a good excuse -- a broken back years before we met continues to make sleeping on the ground a challenge for her. 

But after I read Kerry's note, she wants to try again.  I'll pack in a super-duper mattress, as thick and cushy one as I can get (make/model suggestions?).  And I'm getting her new rain gear. 

So Kerry, I owe you one.

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That is so good to hear.  Get her the best of everything and make her comfortable.  Nothing beats tripping with the one you love.
  
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Puckster wrote on May 1st, 2013 at 2:34am:
The frequency of my wife's canoe trips has declined over the years.  She has a good excuse -- a broken back years before we met continues to make sleeping on the ground a challenge for her. 

mattress, as thick and cushy one as I can get (make/model suggestions?). 



From my perspective one of the greatest joys in life is being able to show other people a good time. To have this other person be your spouse puts added significance on the situation.

OK.......if I was in your position Prouboy here is what I would be thinking.......

One day travel in to base camp and then do day trips from there. Since I am only one day in I can bring everything but the sink. Comfy chairs, screened dining tent, one of those "roll up" tables, fresh food, maybe some ice, etc. etc.

As per the mattress? Supremely important. Don't laugh at what I am about to suggest.........this could easily be done. I would look at one of the aero beds. We have one for sleepovers and they are pretty darn comfy. I believe they have battery operated pumps or you get get one of the ATV 12 volt batteries like the one I used for my depth finder. It was small and light enough to take on any base camping excursion.

Check them out.......Aero bed (get the repair kit and do not over inflate) We have had good luck with ours but of course it is set up on carpet. Perhaps you take some foam or carpet to lay down first?

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Reply #47 - May 1st, 2013 at 12:51pm
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Puckster wrote on May 1st, 2013 at 2:34am:
But after I read Kerry's note, she wants to try again.  I'll pack in a super-duper mattress, as thick and cushy one as I can get (make/model suggestions?).  

I have been using the Downmat9 for years now. It is so comfortable I even use it at my cabin. They are the most comfortable for me when they are inflated just enough to keep my hips off the hard surface. They are thick enough that small bumps in the ground are not felt.

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Wow, a matchmaking thread discussing which bed to use!!
What happened to our family-friendly site? Roll Eyes
  
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Old Salt wrote on May 1st, 2013 at 3:28pm:
Wow, a matchmaking thread discussing which bed to use!!
What happened to our family-friendly site? Roll Eyes


What's that old saying. Grin
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All,
I live so far away that 'Copia has never been a possibility. I would have liked to have gone and met some of you people. I've certainly read enough of your posts over the years.  Smiley

Well, in the spirit of this thread...here goes.
Just read this entire thread, with great enjoyment. And irony. I just turned 60, and all my usual partners are no-go this year. Sons have obligations, buddies have obligations or health issues. I have dithered back & forth about going on another solo - I like it but also like the laughter/sharing of a group. Wife is not enthusiastic about the solo trip either; she won't veto the idea but she's understandably concerned about the safety factor.
I have a solo boat and would consider joining a group of tandem paddlers or group solo, but I need to go in July or August. Old Salt's Kawnipi rendezvous sounded good until I saw it was in June.
I could probably do just about any length up to 14 days. I'm not up for 30 miles and 15 portages a day, but I'm in good enough shape to paddle/portage every day. I can shut up or converse as needed, no offense taken. I can tolerate just about anything but whining. I don't require the choice tentsite. I have my own gear. I don't smoke but don't care if you do. I have been known to have an evening beverage or two. I refuse to debate politics or religion, but will talk sports as long as you like. I like photography. My fishing ability is pretty much limited to hooking the really dumb fish, but I do enjoy it. Never been to B-Dub, but been to Quetico via Prairie Portage at least a dozen times. If anyone out there is receptive to the possibility of a July or August trip with a new paddling partner, shoot me a PM and we'll maybe work something out.

Well, now I know how it must feel to go on one of those singles match-making sites.
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FYI Update:
Got a couple PMs and looks like there may be some possibilities. Didn't feel all that comfortable putting my situation out there, but looks like this matchmaking-for-tripping-partners thing has some viability.

Anyone else? :dankk2
  
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I've been taking trips into Quetico once or twice a year since 1981. As the years pass, I've found it harder and harder to put a group together from my group of friends, co-workers and business associates. Rarely do I have a group that wants to go as deep into the park as I do, fish as hard as I do, etc. More often than not I end up feeling like a unpaid guide on my trips instead of getting the full enjoyment out of them. My group this year started out as a group of 6 and now we're down to two as people cancel for various reasons. A forum that facilitates the forming of groups with like interests and abilities would be welcome.
  
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It's fine here for now IMO. Someone or I will put it in the right place eventually. Same difference.
  
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Prouboy,

Regarding your mattress inquiry....outside of going with a regular 'air mattress' as MT suggested....and that may work for you, the best I've found are the Big Agnes pads.  The Q-Core is 3.5 inches thick and can be had in 20 or 25 inch width, with the 25 only in a 78 inch long version.  They are NOT cheap, but you can shop around.  REI members often get 20% a full priced item and that can significantly reduce the cost, and you can't beat the return policy if it doesn't work out.  Do what you can to try whatever you get out locally before hitting the trail with it.  Maybe you have some close friends that can loan you different styles to try before you buy too?  If you go with the 'big boy', you might look for a hand pump....aka extra large bike tire pump style...lighter than that battery of MT's. 

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db, are you sure you wanted to move that mattress post to here, in matchmaking? Or was that one of those things that happer when you post at 3 am?

(I can sort of see the connection, but ...)
  
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Prouboy, if you haven't found the perfect mattress for your wife yet I thought I'd share this info with you. A friend brought her 'princess mattress' with her on an all girls trip and I thought it was silly until I made the mistake of lying down on it! Then I bought one for my husband, who had trouble sleeping, luck for me he doesn't like air mattresses and I have inherited a princess mattress. I bought it at Mountain Equipment Co-op and I'm not sure if they ship to where you are but here's the info in case it's something you're interested in.

MEC Reactor Summer Pump Pad

Product Number: 5025-651
Made in Taiwan

Weight: 600g (Regular)

This replacement for the Kelvin Summer Pump Pad features improved foam in the integrated pump for better rebound, fewer strokes, and faster inflation. With no added insulation, this pad is compact when packed, yet luxuriously thick when inflated. Side sleepers will relish having a full three inches between their hips and hard ground.

For summer and warm weather use. No added insulation.
Integrated pump works with CPR-style hand compressions. No huffing and puffing.
Non-slip surface on the underside prevents sliding in your tent.
Includes stuff sack and repair kit.
  
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Thanks Sunny!  I'll definitely check it out.

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